Do we always need a Homeopathic remedy for emotional responses?
At the moment all of us are feeling the effects of a collective witnessing of wanton violence and annihilation of an entire people in Palestine. It’s increasingly challenging to ignore that & pretend it isn’t affecting us….I want to address this from the perspective of seeking a Homeopathic remedy to resolve the array of intense emotions that many of us are experiencing.
I feel called to write about this in response to the many of my Clients who have asked me for Homeopathic support in managing these emotions – deep grief. sadness, anger, frustration, powerlessness……And a few are concerned that they don’t feel anything but a kind of numbness or distance – a dissociation.
We have had some very insightful, growthful sessions together. Mostly these Clients have not needed a homeopathic remedy after all and have gone home feeling calmer, more resourced, able to self-regulate & so to impact others more positively.
What they have needed was a safe, non-judgmental space to explore often complex emotions and to understand that mostly feeling these feelings is very far from unhealthy – in fact the opposite! Disentangling awakened old emotional wounds both collective & personal, from what is currently going on, has been transformative in allowing these feelings to become integrated & feel aligned, accepted & manageable, rather than all consuming & disempowering. I am grateful for my QTT® Coaching Practitioner training for this ability to create such transformational sessions AND that I also have my Homeopathic skills to add value whenever it’s appropriate.
Unfortunately many of us have been bought up and encouraged not to feel deep emotions or certainly not to express them, and we have become skilled at masking them, supressing them, ignoring them or even sometimes feeling ashamed of them…So when we do FEEL in response to something so hideous and incomprehensible as the genocide playing out on our phones, we automatically seek to try and push them down again. We are not comfortable feeling our feelings. But mostly these are entirely human and healthy responses AND they are not necessarily prohibiting us from functioning, overwhelming us or stopping us from also feeling other emotions like Joy, Gratitude & Love. We are complex beings, us Humans, and we can experience a huge variety of emotions healthily without any of them necessarily taking us over completely or becoming our everyday state.
Homeopathic remedies are there to support us when that is not the case & we get stuck. When our emotional state becomes an unwitting pattern & drives behaviour that ceases to nourish us or feel aligned for us & starts to produce physical changes. Mostly this comes when we do not feel able to fully feel something & we stuff it down, deny it’s existence and pretend it isn’t there at all. It seldom comes from being fully conscious of our responses being healthy, transient states that will pass.& that by feeling them we can learn, contribute to positive changes & offer support when appropriate….
It’s healthy to feel deep grief about things that happen that are not personally connected to you, but not all the time & at the expense of anything else.
It’s healthy to feel anger, frustration or a sense of injustice & that may drive us to take actions that instigate positive changes and ultimately make a difference, but not when we are stuck in an angry state all the time & we are after vengeance…
It’s a healthy response to feel numb, removed, unfeeling, particularly when this may be a pattern that has worked to protect you in the past, but not when it becomes a permanent state that denies you the pleasure of feeling anything at all, ever – Heart walls keep everything out & feelings locked in….they prevent real connections with others & ourselves. Homeopathic remedies are excellent at enabling us to dismantle these walls brick by brick….
It’s healthy to feel able to express our feelings openly, to allow them to move, tears to flow or passion to vent, to seek whatever resources we may need to allow those feelings to keep moving without judgement or condemnation of ourselves or others.
It’s healthy to come together with others & acknowledge communal feelings to witness & be witnessed, to support & be supported, but also to be clear that emotions are energetically contagious, so before entering into groups be able to strengthen ourselves & conscious of how to express without judgement, blame or attachment to any particular outcome…To be able to be discerning.
Just as we don’t necessarily need a remedy for every bump, bruise or scratch, (when we can heal nicely without), we do not necessarily need a remedy for every uncomfortable emotion. Understanding that we all feel collective energy just as deeply as personal energy also pays dividends. nb often collective emotions go unnoticed or rather unattributed & unchanneled. But we do feel that collective energy and we are reacting or responding to it in some way……
We have been groomed to suppress the expression of emotions and that to do so is weak, vulnerable, ‘Female’ – as if that’s a bad thing!! We criticise women in positions of power for openly weeping or expressing anger & we dismiss them as flakey – in my view this is where the world has gone wrong – we need more emotions expressed not less.
More humanity & less politics.
More compassion & less greed.
Before automatically seeking a remedy to stop deep, unfamiliar or uncomfortable feelings try these steps:-
- Acknowledgment/Consciousness – what am I feeling at this moment?
- Is this an appropriate response to whatever the trigger is or does it feel deeper/wider than that?
- What can I do to allow myself time & space to feel it fully & allow this state to run it’s course & pass?
- Can I do this alone or do I need to access additional resources to support me?
- What might these resources be?
- What do I need to feel able to feel myself fully with trust & without fear or judgment?
We all have many resources available to us to support us when we need it – these can be personal self care practices like Journaling, Meditating, Breathwork, Yoga, Qi-gong, walking, hiking, swimming, painting, talking to friends, creating something or joining a group…
When we feel overwhelmed & unable to remember those resources or practice them with good effects, then accessing external resources such as a professional practitioner, can offer safe, non-judgmental spaces that enable us to fully explore uncomfortable feelings & come away with the ability to remain whole, integrated and accepting of all parts of us. In my practise that may include an appropriate Homeopathic remedy or it may not! Often the ‘remedy’ resides in simply being conscious of ourselves and our own ability to transform stuck energy with the right questions ….. This way brings emotional freedom and empowerment.
It’s when we feel fully internally aligned & integrated enough to express ourselves healthily that our external worlds transform and ultimately we have the most positive impact on others….
As ever if you are unsure of what you need & feel a chat would be helpful please book a free Clarity call with me by going to my bookings page on this site.