We are now in February and many of us have already abandoned our ‘New Year Resolution/s’! Alternatively, if you’ve been following my road-map to creating your best year yet, you have a good template in place for creating positive, lasting changes! (If you would like access to this free video series just email me rebecca@rebecca-atkinson.com).

You will of course already have an idea of what steps you need to put in place to support the action you want to take to achieve your best life, and have you made room for it to happen? De-cluttering has become such a ‘thing’ in recent years and like everything can be misunderstood and used as a generalised ‘cure-all’ by some! However, if used in a bespoke way to suit your personal needs, it can be useful.

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Is your glass half-empty or half full?I like to live my life assuming the best of people and of situations rather than assuming the worst, I prefer the sunny side of the street to the dark side and try to look for the positive aspect of as many situations as possible. I wasn’t always able to do this but since I have adopted a much more conscious & mindful way of living – which took practice to begin with – my life has improved enormously . I’m happier for more of the time, I feel richer & more abundant, I have more tolerance & patience and am far less likely to waste my energy being sucked into destructive patterns of behavior – either my own or others. This means I make far more constructive and productive decisions and am able to stay focused on what is important and meaningful for me and those I love – I’m much more in control of how I feel and react to any given situation in my life.

Much of this is because of 5 foundation stones or ‘rules’ that I live by since using QTT Methods, and most of the other practices and techniques that I have to sustain me are built on these 5 rules. Actually, if you were to adopt these 5 rules and did nothing else until they became instinctive and automatic to you, I guarantee that your life would change for the better. Since these 5 rules are the basis on which to build all other practices, I’m going to take time to explore them with you, and I urge you to take time out to really think about them and practice applying them to pretty much any situation.

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Respect and non-judgement is something I think most of us like to feel that we have, particularly for those we love. However without practicing Golden Rule 1 – Understanding that we all have a different view of the world – it is impossible to truelly practice non-judgement. Be honest, how many arguments/battles of wills/broken relationships have you experienced over the years that,when it comes to it, are about someone not sharing your views or opinions or way of living?

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I spent a long time trying to get other people to change or waiting for my perceived ‘Ideal living or work circumstances’ so that everything would be ‘perfect’ and I would be happy and content. All it bought me was a constant state of discontent and fruitless searching for the thing or person or situation that was going to make everything alright.  In constantly searching for what was missing rather than focusing on what was positive or beautiful in my life already, I was chasing my tail, unable to appreciate the many, many wonderful things in my life on a daily basis. Once I recognised how exhausting this was, I relaxed and started to notice & experience the happiness I was constantly striving for previously.

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As I’ve said before, the majority of our behaviors are driven by our sub-conscious mind and the beliefs we’ve chosen over the years. The overriding intention of any behaviors stemming from our beliefs, is to protect us in what ever way it can, given the circumstances.

This can be very hard for us to understand and remember, when dealing with particularly anti-social or hurtful actions, but it is always true, however unpalatable it may be. Please do not think that we need to agree with that chosen behavior or condone it in any way, however we must identify it as serving a positive purpose for the person who is doing it albeit on a sub-conscious level. Think of unhappy children who crave attention, any attention being better than none. They quickly work out that being good and quiet means that they are left on their own, no parent or carer engages with them. But they crave attention and interaction and notice that they get a great deal of it if they act out, shout, or break the rules or display anger. Depending on how that is received, the code is then set up – act angry and upset etc and I will get the attention I so crave. They are simply trying to get what they need in the only way they know how.

Another common example is bullying – belittling, dominating behavior of any kind. Generally speaking, people who need to engage with others by making them feel small, stupid, unimportant and dominated are actually feeling all those things themselves. At some point they have taken on the belief that they are small, a failure, insignificant etc. So all their behavior – subconsciously – is driven by a need to make themselves feel better & more important.  So they have made a choice – still subconsciously – to make others feel dominated because that means they feel better about their own importance.

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Most of the time –  particularly when we are overwhelmed with ‘stuff’ that Life has thrown at us – we forget how far we’ve come, how many obstacles we have negotiated and survived! We almost never stop, look back and appreciate how many achievements we’ve accumulated, how we have managed to overcome numerous challenges and

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I confess……..I used to be a control freak!! – I felt that I did everything really well and efficiently and that everything needed to be organised & controlled & in order at all times. I also believed that no one else could do it as well as I could, so rather than delegate I found it

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