This is the 5th in my Blog series exploring the 7 Behavioural Codes that govern & drive all our behaviour – codes that run in our sub-conscious minds & determine patterns that run automatically for us. We need these 7 codes to be balanced & full at all times & when they are not, all our actions will be driven by a desire to re-balance & re-store these centers of feeling.

Our 5th code is located in our throats & neck and govern our sense of self-expression, our ability to use our authentic voices to speak out, say what we feel & what we know to be true for us individually & for us as a whole & (I believe), ultimately for the whole sentient world. I have worked with many Clients over the years who have come seeking relief from physical symptoms in their throats, or neck area – Thyroid disorders, chronic sore throats, Tonsillitis, Laryngitis or problems swallowing food etc. Too often to be ignored it turns out that these Clients shared a common thread of some kind of suppression of themselves & their ability to express that.

We express who we are through a variety of ways –  language, words, hand gestures, facial movements, body language, touch or not touching, our choice of clothing, make-up, body art, hairstyle, jewellry etc. These choices that can cause so much angst in parents are some of the first indications that we are becoming our own people, forming our own self-awareness & identity distinct from our parents or primary care givers. Ironically this is often the time when these outward forms of self-expression are exactly the time when we most yearn to ‘fit in’, to belong to a tribe, a tribe that ‘gets us’ & we can ‘be ourselves with’. How much this is a problem or not depends on this 5th code fully functioning & also our 1st (safety), 2nd (Creativity/risk) & 3rd (Self esteem/identity) codes also being in balance. I hope that you can see from reading about the previous codes how, for example if we don’t feel that it’s safe (1st code) to speak out, then we won’t, in a bid to feel safe, however that protection device disables this 5th code. Perhaps we have experienced very strict parenting that didn’t give space to creative self-expression or taking any kind of risk (2nd code) or maybe we live in a wider environment that employs censorship of any opinions that don’t conform? If you are a painter, singer or naturally extrovert & these behaviours were discouraged or belittled when you were young, you can see that the potential is there for damage to at least 2 codes? The second code which needs us to take risks & be creative as well as the 5th code which is the ability to be & express who we really are.

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This is the 4th Blog in my series exploring our ‘7 Behavioural Codes’ – the primal, human needs we are all seeking to feel rich in and that we need to feel are in balance with each other. Understanding these codes helps us to get clarity over what may be driving our behaviours – the ones we like and the ones we don’t like so much. These patterns of behaviour are often set up from a young age and unless we can understand what’s driving them, ask whether they are helping us or hindering us, we will find them difficult habits to break.

Our 4th Code is all about our deep need for unconditional Love, to give it and to receive it. If we feel that we are not fulfilled in this vital area, then all our behaviour will be about seeking to feel more love. Unsurprisingly we tend to feel this code & any effects of a lack of it in our chests, heart & lung area. I see this deep need to feel Love as having 3 equally important componants:-

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This is the third in my 7 part series where I invite you to think about the basic (& complex) primal, human needs or codes that we all have as part of our healthy whole. Understanding how the need to fulfill these needs with everything we do & say can give us insight into where

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As a holistic health practitioner of many years I have been aware of & interested in the Chakra systems that many Health Modalities believe in & focus on.  Simply put, these are the perceived energy centers that we all have that govern the different aspects of our health – physical, emotional & spiritual. They are represented by different colours & the primary focus is generally associated with the area of the body they are located & then the various parts of us that are connected to that area. The Chakra system originated in Eastern Medicine systems & believes that true health is only possible if all Chakras are able to hold & move energy both individually and synergistically with all Chakras in balance & working in harmony.

Whilst Homeopathy comes at this from a slightly different perspective there is much cross over and shared understanding & there are some Homeopaths who practice Homeopathy exclusively from the Chakra perspective. Indeed I have prescribed on this basis myself on occasion with success and I am always grateful for the many different ways of achieving positive results for my Clients.

When I studied QTT Personal Development methods with it’s Creator & my Mentor Moira Geary, I was excited to embrace a similar system of understanding – The 7 Behavioral Codes. Whilst the 7 Codes are not the same as the Chakra system, again there are similarities and I have had the truth of these codes borne out time & time again in my own personal experience & with my Clients. To me they are an invaluable tool both with my QTT work, Life Coaching, Mentoring and now my Homeopathic practice, they make sense, they are simple & practical and offer deep understanding of Health & dis-ease.

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How many times have you found yourself agreeing to do something or turning something down, only to find yourself a short time later, saying to yourself ‘Why did I do that? That’s not what I want at all?’

It can feel like you responded in a kind of automatic, knee-jerk kind of a way, that once you’ve had time to think it through, seems to be conflicting with what you really want or seems not to make sense? Similarly are there certain situations, behavior’s or language in other people that are ‘guaranteed’ to induce or trigger a predictable reaction or feeling in you, and even though you recognise this, you seem unable to stop it or change it?

It can feel that there’s someone else or that some part of you is inside and running the show, pulling the strings despite your best intentions – this can contribute to us feeling out of control, that nothing we do makes a difference and ‘Life just happens, what can we do?’

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Recently I was given an extremely generous gift from someone very dear to me. The gift was totally unexpected, extremely generous & made me cry! The timing of it at a moment when it lifted me out of a dark hole meant that its worth was magnified beyond it’s ‘face value’ and to say that I was, and am immeasurably grateful is an under statement! So What’s the problem, you may ask? Not so much of a problem as a small revelation – I found it more difficult to accept this gift than I would have imagined. I struggled with it because I immediately went into thoughts of ‘I will be in debt’, ‘ I can never re-pay this’ & ‘I haven’t earned this & therefore don’t deserve it’.

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